How to love yourself

When I look in the mirror, I want to say: hey thanks for being so handsome! Not why are you not prettier. I always want to be kind towards myself, because then it is easier for me to react in a nice way to myself. This makes life a lot less complicated. But being kind is not the level I strife for, I want to love myself. I want to look in the mirror and melt because of the look in his eyes. It is okay to love yourself, don`t worry about Justin Bieber.

How to love yourself

What are you thinking? This question is harder to answer than you think. There are thousands of thoughts racing through your mind each day. But let us make our brain a bit more of a resting place for a moment. Sit down, relax, take 3 deep breaths, and let your thoughts flow. Do not hold them back, they can be what they are for they are. Now listen to one thought at a time. When you have one thought, think about it (yes you can) is this thought negative or positive?

Reprogramming your mind

Now you have captured a thought, do not let it free yet. This thought is probably as old as you are believe it or not. It has rampaged through your head and told you the content of the very thought over and over. Now we have this thought lets change it into something positive. For example:

Example

I need to do more work today, yesterday I have done too much chilling.

This is a very negative thought, it says we need to do something, I won’t let this thought tell me what to do I decide that.

I want to do more work today, yesterday I have done too much chilling.

This is still too negative, yesterday should not even matter and chilling is good. I want to chill and do work at the same time.

I want to chill while working more today.

Let me tweak this, I want it to tell me I can do what I want and I want to do it a lot.

I want to work on my goals and have fun doing it, probably have a drink as well.

Now I let the thought free, go do your work thought see you later.

Thanks for reading.

The impact of habits

Throughout the journey there are a lot of ways to give a definition of life. One of them is to find two things that exclude each other (duality). For example: light and dark. Where there is light there is no dark, therefor everything that exists is either light or dark, never both and never none. Another example (the one that explains this series) is the duality of: yourself and things that are not yourself (a very efficient way of defining life is saying something and then everything that is not that thing). Now the things that are not yourself are the things that are harder for you to change. But you can easily change yourself. Want to know how? proceed!

Changing yourself. 
Mental habits
You are the result of everything that has had an impact on your own life. Every time something happens in our lives we change the way we behave. When someone breaks his promise, you probably will not trust him next time he makes a promise. When someone keeps his promise you probably will trust him even easier or more next time he makes one. These are what I call mental habits, the things you believe you should thing in certain situations. (I recommend you to read that again, there is a truth in it).

Physical habits
This is another way of changing yourself. Physical habits are about doing the same thing a lot of times. When we drink water for 7 days in a row, there is a big chance we will do it the 8th day as well. But it can also be negative, when we watch 8 hours of television, we will probably watch television another our if we can. This is less healthy and not recommended.

The answer of change 
This is the honey of this story, the holy grail of this post. How do we change our habits? Well easy, just do or think them. Start by drinking one glass of water, do one push up or run for 100 meters. This is easy to do and will feel like a victory. The chance is big that after a victory, you will drink another glass tomorrow and that will make it easier for you to drink 2 the day after.

Thank you